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Attachment Styles

Updated: Feb 27


Healthy attachment refers to a strong emotional bond between a child and their caregiver. This typically develops in infancy. This bond is characterized by trust, security, and a sense of safety. In a healthy attachment, the caregiver is responsive to the child's needs, providing love, protection, comfort, reassurance, and nurturance. This secure attachment forms the basis for the child's emotional development, influencing their ability to form healthy relationships later in life.


Unhealthy attachment can take various forms, often stemming from inconsistent or neglectful caregiving. One type is anxious attachment, in which a child feels anxious and insecure about the availability of their caregiver. These individuals may grow up to constantly seek reassurance from others and fear rejection. Another type is avoidant attachment, in which a child learns to suppress their need for closeness due to repeated experiences of unresponsiveness from their caregiver. They may become overly self-reliant and have difficulty trusting others. A third type is disorganized attachment, which can result from trauma or abuse. These adults may exhibit erratic behavior, struggle with emotional regulation, and have difficulty forming stable relationships.


I believe most caregivers try to do their best when raising their children. I also believe most caregivers want the best for their children: to be happy, to be healthy, and to grow up to be successful adults. Many different life situations might lead to a caregiver not being available to tend to their child's needs: divorce, illness, military assignments, financial stress, death, geographical distance, blended families, etc... Unfortunately, no one hands us a manual on how to raise children. (I felt the same anxiety when the doctors let me walk out of the hospital with my first born!). And when things get tough, caregivers tend to rely on the patters of behavior they learned from their own caregivers during childhood.


But there's hope, it's important to note that attachment styles are not fixed and can change over time with the right support and intervention. Healing your attachment style and developing a secure and healthy attachment later in life is possible through therapy, self-awareness, and forming healthy relationships. Understanding attachment styles can help individuals recognize and address unhealthy patterns, leading to more fulfilling and secure relationships. It's never too late to heal attachment wounds!



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